I have several friends who seem to lead very exciting lives. Seemingly more exciting than mine and I am always happy for them.
One of my best friends is heading off to Palm Springs in a few weeks to an all paid trip with her husband. I am hanging on every planning detail that she shares with me. From her shopping trip to buy a new bathing suit and various amazing sounding clothing items to where her children are going to be when she is gone. I was thrilled when she sent me the link to the resort where she is staying. It looks amazing and beautiful and so so relaxing. I actually looked at every page on the web site and watched all the neat little videos.
I have another close friend who travels a couple of times a year with her boyfriend to fun sounding places. She was recently in Miami over Christmas, Las Vegas last year and I can't remember where else. Even with these trips I savor every picture that she posts and enjoy it all.
Finally one of my very good friends is a world traveler. She spends her free time traveling around South East Asia. She posts lovely photographs of the places she visits. She writes amazing passages of her experiences and when I am lucky she even skypes me from places like Costa Rica. It seems like such an amazing life.
My husband is getting ready to go to Cuba with his best friend in a few weeks and I am happy for him too. He is not sure exactly where they are going but knows it will be relaxing and fun. I have asked him to bring me back another naked lady statue if he thinks of it (I have several from my travels).
My husband asked me the other day why I am not jealous of all these amazing trips. He knows how much I want to travel to interesting far away places. He is in awe of the fact that I don't gripe after talking to my friends but ask them to send me pictures of where they are going and to tell me all about it. To him I answer "I am truly happy for them". He doesn't understand. I'm not sure I understand it either but it is better than being miserable about all the places I can't go to just yet. I guess it is just part of being present. I am happy where I am, here and now. I don't feel like now is the right time for me to run off to a foreign country. I have too much that needs to be done here, now. I run a day care and have three small children. The day care and my other jobs can get taken care of but my children need me now. I also know that when I go it will be for at least a month or more and I will love every minute of it for the more because it will be the right time.
So the next time someone tells me they are heading off to Palm Springs or Florida or India or wherever it might be. When you hear me say, wow I am so happy for you - I really do mean it.
Jennifer is an RMT, long time yoga practitioner and teacher. Follow her musings as an RMT, yoga teacher, prenatal educator and mother of three.